I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been to some sort of family gathering where grandma, a cousin, an aunt, or someone in the family asked me when I was going to get married. The obvious/quick escape answers would be that when I “find the right one” or “when the timing is right” I’ll get married. In some cases they might respond with “well you’d better hurry” or “time’s running out.” While these friends and loved ones mean well, it can often have a negative effect on one’s self-confidence in finding someone to date and marry. In my case, I’ve often thought to myself, “don’t they realize I’m trying?” or “Can I be happy single?” I eventually came to the conclusion that marriage would happen on God’s timetable and probably when I least expected it. As a result, I decided to focus on making myself a better person and continue dating even though at times it would be hard.
Work on Yourself
We’ve heard it said that we should push ourselves to be the kind of person that we’d like to marry. I find this advice to be quite profound. In the dating world, we search for the best possible companion. It would do us well to remember that the people we take out on dates are also looking for their best possible match. We must make sure we are constantly pushing ourselves to be that they would be happy selecting as a companion. So if you find yourself single, don’t give up. Keep working on yourself and become the best possible person you can be. Confidence and self-improvement do not go unnoticed by those around us. Make a list of goals and strive to achieve them. Find things you like to do, and do them, and if you are brave enough go out and try new things.
One of the best ways we can work on ourselves is to lose ourselves in the service of others. When we’re wondering how to be happy single and hoping for a relationship, it can be easy to get down on ourselves. The scriptures teach us that charity is the pure love of Christ (Moroni 7:46). Is there a better feeling than the one that comes when we lend a helping hand? What greater joy can we experience than to see that our actions have blessed the lives of others? If you feel yourself sliding down the path of self-doubt and worry about dating, give selfless service a try. The joy that fills your soul as a result will undoubtedly draw the attention of others. You’ll find that your new-found positive attitude will attract others to you. It shows them that you have the courage to keep on going when the going gets tough.
Never Give Up
Remember, in the world of dating, the only way you can lose is if you give up. I have felt many times like perhaps dating just isn’t for me and that maybe I should just take a break for a while. The problem with that, though, is that I’m the only one who loses. So don’t give up. It’s been said that if we feel like giving up, we should remember why we started. So ask yourself why you date. Remind yourself of your goal. When I’ve felt like giving up, I always remember that all the hardships of dating I’ve been through will just make the day that I do find my wife that much sweeter and precious.
Keep at it. Improve yourself. Serve others. Never give up. You can learn how to be happy single.