Everybody knows that getting out of the friend zone, whether you are a girl or guy, is one of the hardest things to do. While it is something both genders face, because of social memes and other factors, it is more often seen as an issue that guys face more than girls. There are several ways to stop getting put into the friend zone, but anyone who has been unfortunate or unlucky enough to get thrown in there knows what it’s like hearing all the stories about ex-boyfriends or girlfriends, or even worse being asked advice on how to get someone else to like them. While it is notoriously tough to escape from the friend zone, if you want to escape, Try some of these steps.
Keep your cool and embrace the situation
The first thing to realize is that whoever put you in the friend zone made a choice to not be more than friends. Accept their decision, regardless of how illogical or irrational you think it is. You will do better if you start putting less attention on them and focus on yourself. The initial step to moving out of that hell hole called “the friend zone” is to accept that you are in it.
Focus on Self-Improvement
In tandem with that last section is to work on yourself. No one is perfect; you too have a great deal of room for improvement. It will give you hope as well. Start by looking your very best. Make sure you have proper hygiene. Don’t forget about being intellectually interesting. Make yourself a likable person. If you feel confident about yourself, the guy or girl you want will start to notice.
Be Less Interested
Actually, before you get less interested, there is one thing you should do if you haven’t done it yet. Let the person know you are interested! As obvious as you might think it is, they may not know of your romantic interest. Be straightforward and confident about it.
If you have done this and still feel like you are part of that permanent friend zone, you might want to tone things back a bit. If you show too much attraction to someone that isn’t your significant other, that person will know they have you around their finger. As backward as it sounds, being less interested might help you to leave the friend zone. Otherwise, they will know they can get you at any moment they want. Showing less interest will make you a challenge and in some ways more appealing.
Raise your standards
Having standards on everything you like, how you conduct yourself, and how you expect the people you surround yourself to conduct themselves. It’s easier to be attracted someone who has standards and goals and holds themselves to them. When someone clearly knows what they want, how they want it, where they want it, and they when they won’t settle for anything less, it shows. Be motivated and goal oriented. Show this person that you are the type of person that can accomplish anything you put your mind to.
These are all things you can do to make yourself better and increase your chance of leaving the friend zone. And in the end, if you don’t get out of it, you are just better equipped to stay out of it in the future.